The other day, I was watching Mayim Bialik’s YouTube channel.
I was floored.
These were the same practices we put into place with our children starting back in 1998.
I didn’t realize, until the other day, that there was a name for it.
But yes, we raised our children on the main principles of Attachment Parenting.
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How We Found Attachment Parenting in 1998
So when I couldn’t just “Google” my baby concern – I turned to my favorite baby books.
One of those books was the start of our Attachment Parenting style.
My Go-To Baby and Parenting Books
1. The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two by William and Martha Sears
2. What to Expect the First Year by Heidi Murkoff
The Baby Book by William Sears
Here’s the thing, 18 years later I don’t remember all of the ins and outs of this book.
I can’t recall any details of the advice in the pages.
I do remember that I always had a highlighter tucked between the pages.
I remember holding a sleeping baby in my arms while reading the book.
I remember turning to those pages and feeling very confident and comforted by what Dr. Sears was saying.
My Parenting Resources
I’m assuming that today many new mothers have blogs, Facebook, and Pinterest to turn to for support and advice. They probably also have their friends and family.
In 1998, I was a 20-year-old working woman. I was living in a home with a a coworker and two other roommates (all single and child-free people). I was over 1,200 miles away from my parents, whom I had a strained relationship with at the time.
Luckily, I had a very supportive boyfriend (now husband) and his family.
But we hadn’t been dating for very long so his family was still “new” to me.
I didn’t have a new mother support group.
Initially, I didn’t even have a supportive doctor to turn to.
So when I was feeling overwhelmed or alone, it was my husband and the books I turned to for support.
Principles of Attachment Parenting
There are 8 Principles of Attachment Parenting.
Principle 1: Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting
Principle 2: Feed with Love and Respect
Principle 3: Respond with Sensitivity
Principle 4: Use Nurturing Touch
Principle 5: Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally
Principle 6: Provide Consistent and Loving Care
Principle 7: Practice Positive Discipline
Principle 8: Strive for Balance in your Personal and Family Life
We didn’t follow all of the principles exactly. But two of the main and possibly most discussed principles are ones we fell into easily.
Breastfeeding, Co-Sleeping and Bed Sharing
These two principles worked so well for our family.
With our son, we were both working parents.
We needed our sleep.
So when the baby would cry, I just had to roll over, grab him out of his bassinet and feed him.
Sometimes he’d make it back into the bassinet or else he’d stay in the bed with us.
With our daughter, I was a stay-at-home mom and my husband was working shift work.
So some nights it would just be me and the kids.
It was more convenient for me to have both kids in the room. Our son slept on a toddler bed and the baby slept with me.
Our room was big enough that we could have the crib, toddler bed and our own bed in there.
Again, easiest way for me to get sleep and still feed the baby.
We were always safe. We didn’t drink, smoke or use prescription drugs so we weren’t ever unable to wake. We never worried about rolling over the baby.
I also breastfed both babies into their toddler years (about 2 1/2 for both).
With our son, I had to pump while I was at work and that was a hassle but so worth it!
I was able to give the daycare breastmilk to heat up in a bottle.
That’s not to say there weren’t issues. I’m a parent – there are always issues and difficulties.
But when I take into account the positive and negative, the positive always win out!
Attachment Parenting Series
I will be writing a series of articles where I discuss our experience with attachment parenting.
Our kids are now 18 and 15 so I can provide some insight into what this looks like through the teenage years.
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Have you used Attachment Parenting in your family? Do you have any questions about attachment parenting?
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